Anniversary

We are having an amazing time

So instead of going into the details of just how great life truly can be, thank you Lord Jesus. I am going to give you gents some pointers on how to have a great time with your woman.

Do what you want

I am just going to tell you what I did, and some thoughts.

it can be hard to celebrate special events. I am guilty of this. On one occasion when my wife was upset a general theme emerged. We don't get to spend enough time alone.

A critically important skill to develop is understanding the complexity in which your woman will communicate. So listen to what she is saying, and then try to understand it. Ok? good.

Plan around her desires

So I told her what days to make sure she doesn't have any work scheduled, and I did the same. Mrs. Binswitch loves some things. Water (big baths, etc) beach, cozy, (all of the sensual things like cooking and making somewhere feel like home). She does not really care for sightseeing or nightlife.

In case you haven't noticed it is a lot easier to have fun together if the things that she enjoys doing, you enjoy them too. If you are dating a woman who is not compatible with you, why? Don't try to fix people. That isn't your job. Find a compatible woman. Her politics doesn't matter, unless she is having issues that you probably want to avoid anyway. If you are both intelligent you likely will have no issues with politics.

Anyway I knew that I needed a condo, on a beach, with an amazing bathroom and view. Boom, done. No anxiety, took about 20 minutes of work. She gets here she is literally beaming. Whole body happy. It is a beautiful thing.

This allows us to have all of our time and focus on just things that we want to. It has been perfect. For the first 8 or so hours I wasn't 100% sure that I wasn't dreaming.

Do you know what it means to her?

Look, I am just as happy being with my wife at home as anywhere. For her, a lack of making time to spend time registers as my building disinterest. Even though it isn't true, and she knows it isn't true...it still hurts. Doesn't matter if you think it is rational, you fix that shit. That is how you make things work. This is especially important for parents with young families. When you are raising kids before you know it 10 years has passed since you had 1 day alone.

Use this same line of reasoning when planning a special date. Just because its awesome to have a girl over to watch you slay dragons or whatever, that doesn't mean she loves it anon. Take her out from time to time, do whatever you like to do. That time is special, not because of logic, just because it is.

That is it for now lads, I am on vacation after all; and it looks like paradise. Until next time, Jack.

The above is #72 from the Mars Woman Collection.